How to Accept Someone Close to You Admitting They're Gay

At some point in your life, you've probably felt unfairly judged or criticized by others. This may have been over your interests, your personality, or something you said/did. Now imagine how hurt your friend or relative would be if you rejected them based on something they had no control over. Radical acceptance requires you to completely accept someone the way they are, without any resistance or desire to change that person. The easiest way to do this is to remember that people do not chose to be gay; that individual was born with that sexual orientation, just as you were born with your own sexual orientation. Remind yourself why you care about this individual. If you're struggling to overcome any negative thoughts/feelings, it may be worth reminding yourself why you care about this person in the first place. Whether you're friends or family, you probably have a lot of similar interests and experiences, and you may have known each other for years. This individual's sexual orientation doesn't change any of the experiences you've had together or the interests you share. He or she was always gay, and all that's changed is that they've figured it out and shared it with you.